8.1 Stuffed Emotions Bury the Authentic Self

When you live a life where your authentic emotions have been buried, you are not living a full life-you’re living a lie. You’re living someone else’s idea of what your life should look like. What gets lost is your own sense of truth, your own sense of who you are. Then, because you don’t know who you are, it isn’t easy to decide what comes from your truth because you don’t really know your truth. You’re so shut down emotionally that you don’t know what you’re feeling, so you end up relying on what other people tell you you’re supposed to feel or what you are supposed to be doing. After a while, you get so shut down that you’re an emotional zombie. You can still function physically; you can still socialize, and you can still be a good intellect and a smart person and do your work, but you’re constantly stuffing your true emotions, and you feel that something is missing in your life it truly is missing.

This constant stuffing of your authentic emotions, burying the authentic self, ends up disrupting the brain’s emotional landscape. What little alpha activity you have is going to become smaller. Also, you might not sleep as deeply or as long as you require, which leads to dampening the production of your alpha even further. Some people who are emotionally shut down automatically go into theta states. Because they feel they are not allowed to feel or express their feelings, they end up going inside themselves more often, internalizing their emotions, leading to daydreaming and zoning out. When you internalize your emotions and don’t allow yourself to feel them or express them outwardly, it also affects the immune system; when you hold onto anger and resentment, major diseases like cancer and heart disease result.

Emotions affect your brain:

Deepak Chopra showed in various studies that your emotions affect your brain. When you have a lot of emotional busy-ness going on in your head all the time you are not expressing, it blocks the neural pathways for new connections to be made. When people have a hard time grasping new concepts or learning on the job, quite often, it’s not that they are not smart. They may be blocked and stressed because they are holding on to all that unexpressed emotion. When you have a lot of mind chatter going on in your brain, it’s hard to stay focused. You are expending so much energy keeping all that stuff in because you don’t feel free to express your true feelings.

Letting go mentally allows your alpha to increase. Letting go emotionally has the same effect. However, most people don’t know how to let go of emotions. Their emotions come tumbling out at the wrong time as inappropriate anger or a tearful breakdown over a minor incident.

At the Biocybernaut Institute, we create a safe space for people to express what they are feeling. And with the Mood Scales and ‘psychic’ mood scale computers, they can’t hide their true feelings from themselves or us. We lovingly and gently dig them out! We also give people a great deal of highly accurate information about themselves. Besides being absorbingly fascinating to everyone, including young children, this abundance of information also overloads the rational mind. This is extremely effective in helping people to get out of their own way and allowing them to let go and relax into higher alpha states.

During the alpha training, people may experience strong emotions that come to the surface. The process can be very cathartic, and crying is both allowed and encouraged. It’s not like you’re baring your soul in front of a bunch of strangers. Our training pieces involve small groups of up to five people, and everyone is together during the post-feedback interview. By the second or third day, when the deep emotional stuff comes up, an amazing bonding occurs between the people in the group. The Alpha One graduates tell me that they feel closer to these people in their alpha training group regarding emotional trust and closeness than they do with members of their own family that they might have known for decades.

According to one of our famous alpha trainees, Bill Harris, of Centerpointe Research Institute,

‘People developed a powerful trust and support for each other. There was nothing that happened that we felt uncomfortable sharing. People revealed startling things, traumatic events that they had in their life, things that many times we are reluctant to share with people. Yet, it seemed very easy to do that in this supportive environment. Everyone had just finished making lots of alpha and was in very loving states, so the support they got from the trainer and people in the group, in addition to what they got from the alpha training, was very healing. It all happens easily and effortlessly and is very spontaneous. When you see other people opening up, you open up. Many timesOften,o have never opened up to anyone about anything in their life ever before find out that there is a big benefit to doing so in the right context.’

‘Compassion is also a great benefit of the training. As people shared what was going on with them when they were making more alpha in the chambers or as we discussed Mood Scales, they began to understand that these other peoples were, in so many ways, just like them. As you go through life, shopping in the supermarket, riding the bus, etc., it’s easy to think that other people aren’t like you. ’My problems are unique to me; they’re mine.’ The alpha feedback experience allows you to notice how much alike everyone is and that we’ve all suffered from sorrow in our lives. An intimacy is created where you begin to realize how alike you are, which causes you to feel compassion and love for other people. In my training, there was a woman in her 70s, a cocktail waitress from Las Vegas, whom I would have thought would have been totally foreign to me. But we all came to feel so close to her and really care about her. People leave looking and feeling radiant and alive.’

Brain wave neurofeedback training at the Biocybernaut Institute results in profound, lasting, beneficial, transformative change resulting from opening up and releasing blocked or buried emotions. A Greek philosopher, Heraclitus (or is it Heraclites) of Ephesus, said that ‘Nature loves to hide and rests by changing.’ So if people are unwilling or unable to change, ultimately, they never find rest. They live under increasing amounts of stress. Fortunately, the technology and means to change rapidly and easily are now available at Biocybernaut. When you change your brain waves, you change fundamentally who you are-you change how you experience your world. Your personality and your view of yourself and others and the world are all functions of your brain waves, and when you change your brain waves, you will change yourself, how you see yourself, and how you see others and the whole world.

In physical fitness, we look for three things; strength, flexibility, and endurance. In brain wave training, we look for the same three things: the strength of brain waves means the ability to create larger amplitudes, more microvolts of energy, and ultimately more brainpower; flexibility of brain waves means the ability to shift from alpha to theta or beta or delta as needed at the moment for maximum effectiveness and resourcefulness, and endurance of brain waves means the ability to hold any given state for longer and longer periods of time. If you walk into a forest and sit down and remain motionless, it may take quite some time for the birds to resume singing and the rabbits and the deer to wander by where you are sitting. Some interesting experiences in consciousness do not emerge until you have held a given brain wave state for an extended period of time. When you have alpha endurance and hold the high alpha state for a long time, there is the opportunity for the brain to set up long-distance coherence relationships between widely separated regions of the brain, which then give rise to higher-order mind phenomena. The skill of endurance and the ability to persist in any given set of brain waves are powerful training for the brain, leading to advanced powers of the mind. Changing a brain wave pattern changes everything those brain waves are related to. If you have the brain wave pattern of fear (low alpha, persistent beta), you will have the experience of fear and negative mind chatter about the fear. When you increase your alpha and reduce your beta, the fear is gone and replaced by happiness, joy, love, enthusiasm, compassion, exhilaration-all those wonderful feelings that are a part of the alpha brain wave patterns. So people who change their brain waves can expect a change in their minds and their lives, and they can even focus on the kinds of change they want.

Many people have issues with forgiveness, anger, fear, unhappiness, depression, and a lack of meaningful connection with other people. As they change and become more open, more loving, and more compassionate, they will experience themselves more richly and fully and joyfully, and their own moments of heightened awareness and increased happiness will profoundly improve. Their relationships with other people in their lives will also profoundly improve.

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