Personality disorders such as extreme anxiety, depression, or suppressed emotions such as anger, sadness, and fear definitely cause relationship problems – at home,
at work, with friends, a spouse, parents, or children. Even when we own and express these emotions, if they continue to be triggered by the same things, they put huge stumbling blocks in the path of relationships. During the Biocybernaut Process, using the protocol I have refined over the years, we can help people uncover and deal with the core reason for their emotional patterns. The power of the forgiveness process is remarkable, especially when a person is holding a grudge against somebody with whom they have a relationship. Even more powerful are the effects of forgiveness for events that happened in childhood, which are often buried and forgotten.
Here is one example of how neurofeedback training makes a difference in relationships. One man who did the training had decided before he came that he needed to divorce his wife. His whole emphasis on the first three days of training was why he needed to do this – the marriage wasn’t a good fit; it wasn’t working; there was no common ground. He had all these reasons why this wasn’t a marriage that should continue. He was getting support from the group to decide the direction he needed to take because he was very certain that the relationship was over.
EEG polygraph:
When he came out of the chamber, he shared the awareness he came to in the chamber with us – he realized that the problem was not her; it was him. He realized that
he was not allowing himself to be open to her love and that she really loved him very, very much. All she wanted to do was love him, and due to his childhood emotional
wounds, he hadn’t allowed his heart to open in a way that would allow this love to come in. He actually opened his heart in the chamber and allowed the love to come
in and realized what an incredible woman she was, what an incredible match she was for him, and how perfect she was for him. The whole situation was turned upside down in that chamber session.
He continued to cry in sharing this with us – something he couldn’t do before coming to the training. He had been closed off emotionally. He continued the process for the rest of the week, experiencing a great deal of emoting and crying and a lot of heart connection with his parents. He relived his wedding day in the chamber
and re-scripted some things that he would rather he had done on his wedding day. On the sixth day, he brought his wedding photographs to show us!
The night of his breakthrough, he realized that he had to go home and wake up his wife and tell her about his insight to bring it into the physical reality
so that his ego would not have a chance to erase it. He held himself accountable for having opened his heart in this way and come to this realization. He told her how
much he loved her and how he realized that she loved him, that he didn’t want a divorce, that he was a fool; he realized that it was his own problem and his own inability to accept the love that was the problem.
The Biocybernaut Alpha One Training has been so successful at reuniting lovers that I recently presented a paper on this topic, calling it Reuniting Lovers: A New
Method of Conflict Resolution Using Biocybernaut Alpha Training.
Albert Einstein said, ‘Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.’ The good news is that the Biocybernaut Alpha Training increases a person’s level of awareness, which gives the person a higher and clearer perspective from which to solve their problems, including those emotionally draining conflicts between lovers. A remarkable variety and intensity of negative emotions can characterize disputes between lovers, so this type of conflict was used to demonstrate conflict resolution effectiveness using the Biocybernaut Alpha Training. A couple four years into a bliss-filled marriage hit the skids when two young teenage children from a prior marriage were suddenly injected into their lives. Screaming, yelling, calls to 911, and a bitter separation followed. They were headed for an ugly divorce when they came for their Biocybernaut Alpha Training. During their 7-day Alpha One Training, their divisive lists of non-negotiable demands were abandoned, and screaming turned to hugs and kisses. A new and loving context was created to discuss the genuine problems that had appeared in their lives.
An internet search of ‘Reuniting Lovers’ yields mainly psychic sites promising otherworldly help. ‘Conflict Resolution,’ however, is more broadly established in
traditional methodology. In some methods of Conflict Resolution, three essential components are described: [1] Negotiation, [2] Mediation, and [3] Consensus of
Decision Making. Supportive processes to Conflict Resolution include (a) understand- ing conflict, (b) perception or understanding different points of view, (c) anger management, and (d) rules for fighting fairly. All of these can be described, taught, talked about, and rehearsed. Still, when people get angry and their egos seize control of the discourse, these processes’ intellectualizations are easily forgotten.
The Biocybernaut Alpha Training methods can be described as incorporating all of the above steps. However, these useful skills are taught as A Way Of Being that emerges naturally from the Biocybernaut training process rather than as formal steps in an intellectually conceptualized method. As Einstein declared, ‘Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.’ Biocybernaut Alpha Training helps people increase their level of awareness, and easy, natural Conflict Resolution is just one of the natural byproducts of increased awareness. For this example, the resolution of conflicts between lovers was chosen rather than some other type of conflict because of the greater intensity of negative emotions that usually characterize the conflicts between lovers. Success here means ease of success in other types of conflicts.
